We all have people that upset us. Some of us have it happen to use on a daily basis. Some people do things that we say are “un-forgiveable.” We have all been there. Here begs the question though. Do you want to be happy or right? The choice is yours.
This is essentially what the Kabbalah Centre tries to help students out with. The idea is for students of the center to learn the difference and know the difference. Here are some basic concepts you can learn from today with this.
1) You have to start taking responsibility for every feeling you have. This something that many of us don’t do. Don’t rely on someone else to give us our emotional stability. Holding someone accountable is not the same as blaming them for how we feel. Say you decide to forgive the person. This is not to say you condone them. This is a way we can take responsibility for our feelings and move on. If we hold onto those feelings, there’s no way we can move on. By taking responsibility for our feelings, we remove the bad feelings and hurt and let it go.
2) How many of us want to be right? Well, this is all coming from our ego. Our ego needs to be right. It needs to feel this in order to be happy. The idea is to be happy without our ego. This is not something our ego can handle very well. The important thing is to forgive, not forget. Holding onto these old feelings will only make you more unhappy. Your ego might be happy, but your soul is not.
The idea with this is to let go of the ego and allow your soul to be happy and free. This is why forgiveness is so important. Forgive, mean it and move on.
3) Look into why you have the resentments. Why are you holding fast to these feelings? Is there just cause? Is it out of spite. Are you looking to keep your identity with this story? Are you looking to elevate your ego? These are all things you need to ask yourself.
In other words, learn to let go of the expectations. If you are only accepting the apology because if what you are getting, then this is not true. You are looking to get, not share.
Some people hold onto things because they are scared to move on. They are scared to lose this part of their identity. The first step to healing is to get rid of all these expectations. If you truly want to be happy, then you will put aside the ego and let it all go. Visit the Kabbalah Centre on their website to learn more.